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  • 122

    r3dsparcl3

    3 years ago

    it is better to have loved and lost than to never love at all.

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      hahaha

      2 years ago

      Shakespeare ftw

    • 60

      David

      1 year ago

      "Jay: You know what they say. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Kay: Try it. " -Men in Black

    • 7

      Ruben Olivares

      1 year ago

      *T'was

    • 2

      Skidd

      1 year ago

      Fuck you, you goddamn liar.

    • 2

      Jarrod Class

      1 year ago

      hahaha Not Shakespeare, Alfred Lord Tennyson

    • 4

      Yoshiharu

      1 year ago

      Shakespeare, but I first heard Plankton say it.

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      shaneac

      1 year ago

      But if you never loved, you don't know what you're missing out on. Ignorance is bliss.

    • 2

      Runescape

      1 year ago

      Lies.

    • 15

      Kayla

      1 year ago

      but what if you love someone and you know you can never be with them and your whole life is miserable because you cant stop thinking about that one person for the rest of your life. No Thanks, I would rather have never loved at all and always be happy than have a apart of me be miserable

    • 4

      Rainbow

      1 year ago

      Ignorance is bliss

    • 3

      Ruby Robinson

      1 year ago

      Harry Potter!

    • 2

      Vin Shaw

      1 year ago

      True true

    • 2

      Paul118

      1 year ago

      @David It's just "J" and "K" not Jay and Kay

    • 0

      Franklin Chen

      1 year ago

      Find some hoes

    • 1

      evsey

      10 months ago

      so true, it is better to experience love and be happy, then to never have loved at all. :)

    • 0

      Trey

      9 months ago

      just like Plankton said...

    • 2

      Alexela311

      5 months ago

      Not loving at all would be really sad...

    • 1

      Oh Snap

      4 months ago

      Never said you couldn't freeze it and wait for the scientists to find a cure and... Ok I'm just getting desperate...

    • 1

      FUN GUY

      3 months ago

      True.

    • 0

      SMYMJ

      3 months ago

      actually its better to have never loved at all because you wouldn't feel the pain from a person leaving you

    • 0

      Billy_Glen

      3 months ago

      Remember Plankton's Quotes (Not real plankton , in spongebob cartoon)= It's better to be love with someone and lost than never loved by someone. Really this thing sayed by him. and i can say "What the Freaking Is this WORDS!!!"

    • 0

      Broosies

      2 months ago

      whoever wrote that obviously never loved and lost

    • 0

      FakeTearsDryFaster

      2 months ago

      That's what they all say after a break up

    • 0

      PhantomGaming

      1 month ago

      “Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.” see this quote? the love maybe over but it happened at least.

  • 29

    MissHorrorshow

    2 years ago

    I hate this statement, because I have loved and lost...a whole lot. When you love someone and they leave you and you have nothing to show for the love and time and care you put into the relationship but tears and self-loathing that is without a doubt the bigger burden than never loving at all. You expend nothing of yourself when you don't love anyone. You stay whole. When you love and lose, each person takes a piece of you with them. That's the lynchpin of this statement. "Loved and LOST", meaning you've never had and never will have a love that will not fail. If it was "Loved or never loved" then obviously "loved" would be the choice. As someone who has never loved someone who didn't walk away, I'd trade it all right this second if I knew I'd never EVER have to feel that pain again.

    • 11

      rakketakke

      2 years ago

      tl;dr

    • 3

      SeaHorse405

      2 years ago

      So, you would have never loved at all?

    • 3

      Lawrence

      1 year ago

      You wouldn't feel such pain if you didn't feel immense pleasure. Surely it is better to experience love & pain than go through life never knowing how deeply you can feel.

    • 1

      EdwardNigma

      1 year ago

      I know that feel.

    • 1

      Johan Leth Gregersen

      1 year ago

      Just think of all the good times you've had with your love. I know it sucks, but do you really love someone if you do not treasure time with them more valueable than hatred for the time you're away from them?

    • 1

      Bananerz

      1 year ago

      I know EXACTLY how you feel. I meant to click the blue, because I've learned to accept it, accept myself. And I figured out I'm the bad guy (not in relationships, but in general), and the bad guys never get the happy ending.

    • 0

      Oh Snap

      4 months ago

      You have a lot on your mind. But they're never really gone... They spent a portion of their life with you. You get memories from that. But I know when I feel lonely, I just feel sad as cheesecake.

  • 14

    You

    1 year ago

    From personal experience. Never loved. Nothing is worse than lost.

    • 3

      Aharon

      1 year ago

      It hurts more than the pleasure of love.

    • 0

      SunnyCrapCake

      1 year ago

      If nothing is worse than 'lost', how come you're fine right now?

  • 11

    Katie

    1 year ago

    Never loved = not ever getting hurt emotionally.

    • 2

      T.P.N

      1 year ago

      Never loved = virgin.

    • 3

      Ranger

      1 year ago

      I'd rather have loved and not lost but between the two I'd have to say the love is not worth the pain.

    • 1

      Steven

      1 year ago

      TPN misread the question.

    • 1

      Wendall Horton

      1 year ago

      T.P.N. Ever hear of prostitutes?

  • 8

    Ryker

    1 year ago

    ignorance is bliss

  • 7

    geekyloon

    1 year ago

    When a man learns to love, he must bear the risk of hatred

  • 6

    David Bell

    1 year ago

    "Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" love that line, its like music

  • 6

    Kronos

    4 years ago

    duh ! obvious unless you never loved someone

    • 48

      Gunther

      1 year ago

      But loving and losing leads to pain and heartbreak whereas never loving at all means you never felt love and there for never felt the pain of loss

    • 9

      Alex

      1 year ago

      But there's a feeling of emptiness when one hasn't loved at all. And time heals everything as they say.

    • 12

      Lawrence

      1 year ago

      I disagree with Gunther. The only reason you feel such pain during heartbreak is because you experience great joy with that person to begin with, and now its over. I would rather take the massive amounts of joy and love with the pain than go though life never knowing those feelings.

    • 8

      sedayildirim

      1 year ago

      @Gunther It's because of Rachel, isn't it?!

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      EdwardNigma

      1 year ago

      I have felt love. I thought she was truly the one. When it ended I didn't know what to do. I was dead inside. I have become a darker man. A hollow shell. A cold hearted human. That feeling is like a constant stabbing pain. I would rather not have the amazing feeling of love torn away and replaced by a dark suffering again.

    • 6

      JustCarefree

      1 year ago

      You mature a LOT more if you lose something/someone you cared about. You learn to value things, be it time, morals, or even money.

    • 3

      Alvo Razzi

      1 year ago

      As someone who has loved and lost more than once, I can tell you that it is definitely better to have loved and lost. Remembering how it was to be loved is indescribable and a great lesson. Plus, you can love again. Never said that you couldn't love again. The other answer implies never loving forever.

  • 5

    assassin

    1 year ago

    the only thing i love is the internet and my cats and both of them never loved me back but im not willing to part with any of those.

  • 4

    wrathseed

    1 year ago

    Never love. The scars would never be there

    • 0

      SunnyCrapCake

      1 year ago

      You have scars from other things anyway. Fuck 'Better to love and lose than to never love at all', a better phrase is 'Shit happens.'

  • 3

    Caity

    1 year ago

    Love definitely there's no point being a loner your whole life! Try new things take risks

  • 2

    Jake the Boss

    1 year ago

    At least u had the experience

  • 0

    eipok

    5 days ago

    Never loved at all? cruel life..

  • 0

    danielvnumber3

    1 week ago

    It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

  • 0

    Timothy Avedikian

    1 week ago

    My first girlfriend just dumped me

  • 1

    FreakiestAlmond

    6 months ago

    Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

  • 1

    LOL

    9 months ago

    I've already had that because I loved my dad but then he died and I lost him.

  • 0

    Tony Howard

    4 weeks ago

    Smile because it happened, don't frown because it's over

  • 0

    Lorenzo Mata

    1 month ago

    It's better to love and loss than to have never loved at all

  • 1

    tacoman2254

    1 year ago

    Potato

  • 0

    Norah1435

    1 month ago

    It's part of life's drama that every body most go throw

  • 1

    Chip Davis

    1 year ago

    I wanna be a real boy!

  • 1

    Somebody

    1 year ago

    It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.

  • 1

    Jay

    1 year ago

    Love and Lost because then you become one of those respected, shiny eyed, sympathy soaking, bearded fathers.

  • 0

    Stalinist4life

    1 month ago

    I don't love

  • 1

    Alyssa

    1 year ago

    Honestly? I've loved and lost. The emptiness you feel when you've never loved is nothing in comparison to losing that someone.

  • 1

    Void

    1 year ago

    Loving and losing leads to suicide

  • 1

    Dr. Prof. Damian

    1 year ago

    makes for good music:)

  • 0

    That Guy

    1 month ago

    You see, if you don't have something, you can't miss it, or feel bad about it!

  • 0

    That Guy

    1 month ago

    You see, if you don't have something, you can't miss it, or feel bad about it!

  • 1

    Brennan Tanner M

    1 year ago

    What kind of question is this the saying Is "tis better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all"

  • 1

    SeaHorse405

    2 years ago

    To hell with being in love. It isn't 'real' ⁢ won't last forever.

    • 5

      Evan Hamilton

      1 year ago

      You are the biggest moron I have ever seen in my entire life.

    • 1

      Adalos

      1 year ago

      Those YOLO and SWAG are far more stupid and yet you call him the biggest moron you ever see?

    • 1

      Joseph David Stearma

      1 year ago

      funny thing about SWAG. it stands for Secretly We Are Gay. look it up.

  • 1

    Linkums

    2 years ago

    At least then I'd know it was possible

  • 0

    Alejandra Peña

    1 month ago

    Love love love what is that good for? Absolutely nothing.

  • 0

    Alejandra Peña

    1 month ago

    Love love love what is that good for? Absolutely nothing.

  • 0

    praetoras

    2 months ago

    I think this one was rather easy, the only reason you grieve over somebody is because you enjoyed them being in your life. The feeling of loving and knowing somebody for whatever period of time, is much better than the feeling of losing them is worse.

  • 0

    RedTape

    2 months ago

    It is the most absolute horrible pain you will ever felt , honestly when it happened to me I wanted to die , that was 6 years ago and I'm still a hallow she'll of a man cold and dead inside trusting no one. Wish I never felt it

  • 0

    charlieflynn

    2 months ago

    I would do loved but lost

  • 0

    Fayana

    2 months ago

    I've already loved an lost. I'm a completely different (and improved) version of myself because of it. If I never loved, I'd still be the same scared girl I used to be.

  • 0

    Ka'Nia

    2 months ago

    Well I think u can be loved once than loses because that happen to me before

  • 0

    Brock Juker

    2 months ago

    This one was deep I felt it looking into my soul

  • 0

    JonyDevil

    2 months ago

    So I can get another girl I liked before

  • 0

    R0b3r7 3

    2 months ago

    If you never loved at all you can't love. But if you lost it doesn't mean you can't just fall again

  • 0

    LadyWhatever

    2 months ago

    have had*

  • 0

    LadyWhatever

    2 months ago

    At least I'd had something.

  • 0

    Conor Begley

    3 months ago

    Death by broken heart or be Jim.

  • 0

    TurtlezBen

    3 months ago

    I've never loved anyway... *sniff*

  • 0

    sargonarhes

    3 months ago

    love is an illusion, a weakness of the glands.

  • 0

    donk84

    3 months ago

    Who cares about the joy you may feel at one time, if you could totally keep yourself from feeling soooooooo unbelievably terrible, why wouldn't you

  • 0

    pday22

    3 months ago

    Forever alone

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