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Have loved and lost
Never loved at all
it is better to have loved and lost than to never love at all.
"Jay: You know what they say. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Kay: Try it. " -Men in Black
Fuck you, you goddamn liar.
Not Shakespeare, Alfred Lord Tennyson
Shakespeare, but I first heard Plankton say it.
But if you never loved, you don't know what you're missing out on. Ignorance is bliss.
but what if you love someone and you know you can never be with them and your whole life is miserable because you cant stop thinking about that one person for the rest of your life. No Thanks, I would rather have never loved at all and always be happy than have a apart of me be miserable
Ignorance is bliss
@David It's just "J" and "K" not Jay and Kay
Find some hoes
so true, it is better to experience love and be happy, then to never have loved at all. :)
just like Plankton said...
Not loving at all would be really sad...
Never said you couldn't freeze it and wait for the scientists to find a cure and... Ok I'm just getting desperate...
actually its better to have never loved at all because you wouldn't feel the pain from a person leaving you
Remember Plankton's Quotes (Not real plankton , in spongebob cartoon)= It's better to be love with someone and lost than never loved by someone. Really this thing sayed by him. and i can say "What the Freaking Is this WORDS!!!"
whoever wrote that obviously never loved and lost
That's what they all say after a break up
“Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.” see this quote? the love maybe over but it happened at least.
I hate this statement, because I have loved and lost...a whole lot. When you love someone and they leave you and you have nothing to show for the love and time and care you put into the relationship but tears and self-loathing that is without a doubt the bigger burden than never loving at all. You expend nothing of yourself when you don't love anyone. You stay whole. When you love and lose, each person takes a piece of you with them. That's the lynchpin of this statement. "Loved and LOST", meaning you've never had and never will have a love that will not fail. If it was "Loved or never loved" then obviously "loved" would be the choice. As someone who has never loved someone who didn't walk away, I'd trade it all right this second if I knew I'd never EVER have to feel that pain again.
So, you would have never loved at all?
You wouldn't feel such pain if you didn't feel immense pleasure. Surely it is better to experience love & pain than go through life never knowing how deeply you can feel.
I know that feel.
Just think of all the good times you've had with your love. I know it sucks, but do you really love someone if you do not treasure time with them more valueable than hatred for the time you're away from them?
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I meant to click the blue, because I've learned to accept it, accept myself. And I figured out I'm the bad guy (not in relationships, but in general), and the bad guys never get the happy ending.
You have a lot on your mind. But they're never really gone... They spent a portion of their life with you. You get memories from that. But I know when I feel lonely, I just feel sad as cheesecake.
From personal experience. Never loved. Nothing is worse than lost.
It hurts more than the pleasure of love.
If nothing is worse than 'lost', how come you're fine right now?
Never loved = not ever getting hurt emotionally.
Never loved = virgin.
I'd rather have loved and not lost but between the two I'd have to say the love is not worth the pain.
TPN misread the question.
T.P.N. Ever hear of prostitutes?
When a man learns to love, he must bear the risk of hatred
ignorance is bliss
"Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" love that line, its like music
duh ! obvious unless you never loved someone
But loving and losing leads to pain and heartbreak whereas never loving at all means you never felt love and there for never felt the pain of loss
But there's a feeling of emptiness when one hasn't loved at all. And time heals everything as they say.
I disagree with Gunther. The only reason you feel such pain during heartbreak is because you experience great joy with that person to begin with, and now its over. I would rather take the massive amounts of joy and love with the pain than go though life never knowing those feelings.
@Gunther It's because of Rachel, isn't it?!
I have felt love. I thought she was truly the one. When it ended I didn't know what to do. I was dead inside. I have become a darker man. A hollow shell. A cold hearted human. That feeling is like a constant stabbing pain. I would rather not have the amazing feeling of love torn away and replaced by a dark suffering again.
You mature a LOT more if you lose something/someone you cared about. You learn to value things, be it time, morals, or even money.
As someone who has loved and lost more than once, I can tell you that it is definitely better to have loved and lost. Remembering how it was to be loved is indescribable and a great lesson. Plus, you can love again. Never said that you couldn't love again. The other answer implies never loving forever.
Some of these wounds, cannot be healed and will stick with you forever, sometimes you wish that you never met her.
the only thing i love is the internet and my cats and both of them never loved me back but im not willing to part with any of those.
Never love. The scars would never be there
You have scars from other things anyway. Fuck 'Better to love and lose than to never love at all', a better phrase is 'Shit happens.'
Love definitely there's no point being a loner your whole life! Try new things take risks
Well, when you say love.... Do you mean the people you love? Like, I don't wanna lose my mother or father. 0.0
They would send a search team
At least u had the experience
I've never loved anyone. And I really don't care.
Loved and lost because it's an honor to love someone
Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
Trust me, I have loved and lost and it is something that I wouldn't wish upon my worst of enemy. You become differentwhen you lose. You become a colder soul, a hollow shell. It is not something that you want to feel.
I've loved someone and it fucked me up. I'd rather not love someone and lose them.
Time hasn't healed me
I've already had that because I loved my dad but then he died and I lost him.
doesnt matter, had sex
Not loved. Worst pain is emotional ones.. Best to avoid it
I wanna be a real boy!
I've lost a lot of people in my life, but gradually you'll deal with the pain like it's a part of you. There can be pain in everything. Not just in loving someone, and then losing them. I mean, people always leave right? I'd rather be surprised if someone stayed.
It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
Love and Lost because then you become one of those respected, shiny eyed, sympathy soaking, bearded fathers.
Honestly? I've loved and lost. The emptiness you feel when you've never loved is nothing in comparison to losing that someone.
Loving and losing leads to suicide
makes for good music:)
"Its better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all."
Ehh its already happened watev
What kind of question is this the saying Is "tis better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all"
To hell with being in love. It isn't 'real' ⁢ won't last forever.
You are the biggest moron I have ever seen in my entire life.
Those YOLO and SWAG are far more stupid and yet you call him the biggest moron you ever see?
funny thing about SWAG. it stands for Secretly We Are Gay. look it up.
At least then I'd know it was possible
Isnt there a quote along the lines of 'it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all'?
It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all!
I'm already feeling that I'm there. Better to not have a taste of what could be and never have it again.
If you never loved yours be deppersed and wouldn't no how to love if you lost love get new love
It's better to have loved and lost then have never loved at all
never loving that means you cant love anyone
Never loved at all? cruel life..
It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all
My first girlfriend just dumped me
Smile because it happened, don't frown because it's over
It's better to love and loss than to have never loved at all
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